Concentration Finds The Way Take Action Developing Your Personal Power In As Little As 30 Days With These 15 Proven Steps How To Make Better Friendships For A Successful Life Success Is Attitude Too
Everyone has two natures. One wants us to advance and the other wants to pull us back. The one that we cultivate and concentrate on decides what we are at the end.Both natures are trying to gain control. The will alone decides the issue. A man by one supreme effort of the will may change his whole career and almost accomplish miracles. You may be that man. You can be if you Will to be, for Will can find a way or make one.
I could easily fill a book, of cases where men plodding along in a matter-of-fact way, were all at once aroused and as if awakening from a slumber they developed the possibilities within them and from that time on were different persons. You alone can decide when the turning point will come. It is a matter of choice whether we allow our diviner self to control us or whether we will be controlled by the brute within us. No man has to do anything he does not want to do. He is therefore the director of his life if he wills to be. What we are to do, is the result of our training. We are like putty, and can be completely controlled by our will power.
Habit is a matter of acquirement. You hear people say: “He comes by this or that naturally, a chip off the old block,” meaning that he is only doing what his parents did. This is quite often the case, but there is no reason for it, for a person can break a habit just the moment he masters the “I will.” A man may have been a “good-for-nothing” all his life up to this very minute, but from this time on he begins to amount to something. Even old men have suddenly changed and accomplished wonders. “I lost my opportunity,” says one. That may be true, but by sheer force of will, we can find a way to bring us another opportunity.
What makes some people so energetic and admired that they become a magnet in attracting others to them. You know, the kind of person you enjoy being in their company. It has little to do with good looks, being abundantly wealthy, owning an expensive car, or wearing the latest fashion statement. Of course, these can’t hurt if you are lucky enough to have them.
It has everything to do with how you think, react, interact, and manage your time effectively. Being a success in life, love, business, and all personal activities takes work and a conscious “awareness” of the qualities and traits that can make you a confident, take charge person that attracts both men and women.
Think about each and every one of the traits listed below. On a daily basis “take action” on one or two of these qualities or traits. Small steps on a daily basis can lead to massive changes over time. Taken as a whole, they can be overwhelming. Progress is not made overnight, but by taking small chunks and tackling them one at a time. Take small steps today and your momentum will pick up next week, next month, next year…compounding like interest in a bank.
15 Steps To Becoming A New Person…
1. Maintain An Even Keel!
Have you ever met a hot head, angry, bitter person that you love to be with. Your temperament and how you handle yourself in all situations can determine your “cool” factor. Maintain steady, sturdy, and stable. Think before you act. Don’t get this confused with personality. Some folks are laid back, some are lively and animated. All are perfectly fine to be who you are, but when the ship hits the fan or when you are being pulled in five different directions, how you react is what’s important.
2. Have A Sense Of Humor!
Be self-deprecating and disarming. You have to be willing to poke fun at yourself from time to time, rather than be staunchly serious. Like anything else in life, humor has to be used in moderation and at the right time to be effective.
Try this experiment. As you pass 3 people at work, have a somber or uncaring look on your face (This may be normal for you). Next, pass 3 people with a big, genuine smile on your face and offer a short greeting. What kind of reaction do you get? How did it make you feel? How did it make them feel? People love to feel valued and important. You can make someone’s day just by giving a simple smile.
4. Treat People Like You Would Want To Be Treated!
What goes around comes around. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and dignity. This applies in front of them and behind their back. Don’t get caught up in viscous gossip.
5. Remember Peoples Names And Small Details About Them!
More importantly use both of them in conversation. People love to hear their names and asking a question about their life shows you have an interest in them on a personal level.
6. Be Honest!
If you lie, even a small little white lie, eventually you will get caught in it. Everyone appreciates direct honesty, even if it is not popular or what they want to hear.
7. Let Other People Talk!
Conversation needs to be two sided to take place. Let the other person do most of the talking. Remain attentive and interested in what the person has to say.
Really listen to what the other person is telling you. When he or she is talking, give direct eye contact and don’t think of how you are going to respond. Process what they are saying and then formulate your answer. Too many people do not listen when people talk but instead think about what they will say next and miss most of what that person said.
9. Do Your Homework!
Don’t go into anything unprepared. Plan and organize what you need to do. Checklists work great, this is why pilots use them….to not forget anything. Wasting someone’s time due to poor planning leaves a bad impression. Even a little preparation, if rushed, goes a long way.
10. Be Disciplined!
Physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual discipline is at the core of your being. Work on improving it every single day.
11. Stand Up Straight And Fly Right!
Good posture commands attention. Shoulders back, stomach in, butt in, and direct eye contact give you a commanding presence.
12. Be Compassionate And Caring!
The world is a hard place, but caring and compassionate people always make a difference in an otherwise selfish world.
13. Find A Mentor!
Emulate someone you admire. Good role models help us build our own unique model of who we are.
14. Associate With Positive People!
If you want to be upbeat, positive, and confident, don’t hang around with petty, nasty, complaining, whiney people. They will bring you down if you let them or you will become one of them. You know the type, complains at work but does nothing to change their unhappy situation. Life is too short to be pessimistic. Choose people who laugh, have goals and objectives, and are interested in living life to the fullest.
Give your time or give your money to worthwhile causes. What you give and how much you give will come back to you in spades in all kinds of ways. Misers are unhappy people.
Everyday strive to be the best that you can possibly be. Will you stumble along the way? Sure, but it is how you get up and continue that counts. It is the small effort that you take daily that can lead to the dynamic, “gee I wish I were like him/her” person you deserve to be.
Your attitude determines your altitude in life. Good luck and start today!
Success in life depends on many factors. Relationship is one of them. Do successful people have better friendships? Is their any relation between art of making friends and success? How to make friends who remain for a lifetime?
What is success?
Everyone of us has his/her own definition of success. An artist feels successful after creating a beautiful painting and a business person feels successful if the business makes profits. Each of us has his/her own parameters that decide success in our life. How do our friendships affect our success?
Happiness and success?
A successful person is essentially a happy person. Happiness means – to feel satisfied with life in most of the ways and to maintain a state of mind that is contented. Our friendships are part of our life. If we want to succeed, we will also have an art of making good friends and keep friendships strong through-out our life.
Maintaining friendships. How?
How to maintain friendships that last? The art is in giving rather than expecting. Share your friends’ worries, concerns and happiness. Join them on all occasions that are important to them. Congratulate them at every success, express empathy at every loss and share joy at every success or any enjoyable occasion.
The role of Internet in keeping contacts-
In the earlier times, when the internet was not there, talking on telephones, sending letters and meeting personally were the preferred methods of keeping in touch. After the advent of Internet, emailing and chat are slowly replacing these earlier ways.
How to make more impact?
Would you prefer to send a one line congratulations mail to your friends on their birthdays, their anniversary, their promotion and all such other occasion when they are feeling special? What if you search the net and select an ecard or greeting card and send it? Does it make a difference? It surely does. It tells your friend that you took some effort in sending a message. Stop sending plain emails and start sending ecards to connect with your friends on days and occassion that are special. You will find the differenece in quality of relationship very soon.
This free course teaches many many successful concepts. I think this was an excellent course. That all should check it out. It shows what so many people miss when learning about marketing.
In the course the writer spoke of how important that apositive attitude is. This is so very true. Many many people want to make money online. THey want to have their own internet business. So they join as affiliates in a
program or they find a product that they think is pretty good.Then with their excitement they last for 1 to 6 weeks,depending on the programs sales letter that got them in to start with.
But when it comes time for them to actually start putting forward the effort, they start doubting, first in themself then in the program or product.So many people fail because they panic and say” Oh what do I do now?”All you
need to do is remember, you bought it right? Do you buy dumb things or ideas?
You just need to get started. One foot in front of the other, or in this case one ad after another. It was put in front of you right? You bought. Another thing you can’t expect to be a success over night. Any business out there
will tell you it takes time to get your name and your product out there in front of people.
The last thing you want to do is to subconsciously sabotage yourself. If you start planting a bunch of negetives in your mind you will work your way right to them.
It is strange how people can make it so easy to fail when they could make it just as easy to succeed. A successful person gets up one more time than they have been knocked down. My favorite one is that it’s better to shoot for the moon and miss, than to shoot for the gutter and hit.
So if you really want to be succesful.. don’t let the
negetive people or thoughts get in your way.
Be positive, be active and be patient. Just get it done!.
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