Belief And Success Why People Fail Unleashing Your Personal Development Potential
Life has different colors. It presents us with various problems from time to time. Sometimes the obstacles are small and sometimes they are so big, that one stops on the way.Looking and thinking about the obstacles of such magnitude, one starts believing that they are unsurmountable.
At this point in our life, what about asking ourselves few questions about our belief? What if someone tells you- believe in yourself, believe in your abilities, and believe that whatever may be the obstacle, you have the strength to overcome it. Believe and you will find a way.
The focus is on belief. What do we believe about our abilities? Do we believe that we can overcome any obstacle? Do we believe that we have the ability? Do we have strong faith in our persistence? Do we know how to think and find out ways? Do we know how to pray and seek answers? Do we think that we are the winners? These are the questions that we should ask ourselves.
What is belief and how does it help us succeed?
Belief, a very strong belief in our ability gives us the strength and the positive attitude that helps us find out answers to every problem. If we believe that we will be able to find the solution, we will be excited to work towards it. If we doubt our ability, then we have already lost the war. Belief is a very strong medicine and it works in wonderful ways. Believe that you will be able to find out all solutions. Believe that you will overcome all problems. Believe that you will emerge successful. Belive that you are a winner. Believe that you deserve success. Believe that you have the mental and physical strngth to fight against all the odds. Believe. There can be no bigger magic than strong belief.
Some people don’t really know what it is they want. Many define what they want by stating what they don’t want. The result, they get exactly what they don’t want. Why because instead of focusing on what they do want they are focused on what they don’t want. I recently discovered this while having a disciplinary discussion with our eleven year old daughter. The discussion was about her behavior and why it is wrong. What’s funny about this is we had this exact same discussion less than sixty days prior.
During this discussion I realized that my daughter did not think she was doing anything wrong, she believed she was acting according to what was acceptable for an eleven year old. I had to think about this for a bit because she did not understand that it is not ok to misbehave. I got the idea to use an example and ask her what she thought about it.
I said, “A person robs a bank, is caught and goes to jail. As soon as that person gets out they rob another bank is caught and goes to jail again. Gets out robs yet another bank and goes to jail. What do you think about this?” “There’s a problem,” was her answer. Then I said to her, “You are the person robbing the bank”. The look on her face was utter devastation. I then explained to her that when she misbehaves it’s like the person robbing the bank. The robber did not want to go to jail but that is what he/she got, exactly what they didn’t want. That’s what you get every time you misbehave; you get everything that you don’t want. The logic was inescapable.
If you focus on the things you don’t want, you are going to get what you focus on. Now that might seem like it’s backwards but in reality that is exactly what many people do and they don’t understand why they continually get the results they get. Your mind attracts to you that which is the center of your focus. If your focus is on what you don’t want you will get that which you focus on. While the above example is a bit extreme the point is you attract to you what you think about. My daughter said she was always thinking about not getting into trouble, what did she get?
It is extremely important to be specific about what you want as well. It is not enough to say you want more money; you must be specific about the amount of more money you want. If you make $40,000 a year, your subconscious mind thinks that $40,001 is more money which it is and therefore you have reached your goal. Your efforts to get more fail because you’re now thinking I don’t want $40,001 I want more. If you want to lose weight, loosing 1 pound to your subconscious mind is achieving your goal, you lost weight.
Now you might be thinking “I want to make more money and in the back of your mind more money means $50,000 a year, but all you say is more money. See the difference? You must be specific and say next year I want to make $50,000 or I want to lose 20 pounds in three months. You must know exactly what it is you want or you will fail to get it.
How to make your dreams a reality.
You must know exactly what it is you want.
You must know every detail, how having what you want will make you feel. What having what you want will do for you, give you more status, more prestige, raise your standard of living. You must know every detail or you will stumble along the way and feel like a failure.
You must have a time frame in mind.
You need to set a date by which you expect to have gained the object of your focus. If you desire to fit those designer jeans by springtime and you need to lose 15 pounds, set a date by which you expect to have lost the weight. Then using a series of smaller goals, affirm to lose 1 to 2 pounds pre week by mapping out a diet to cut out 500 calories a day.
Your desire must be measurable.
First start out with the end result clearly in mind. You should start out with a series of smaller obtainable goals. Success with these smaller goals fuels your confidence towards achieving a larger goal. Then have something to gage your success by. Starting with the end result, work backwards in detail until you get to the starting point where you will set out to achieve you goal. This gives you the exact steps you need to take to achieve your goal. Each step should lead you closer to obtaining your desired result. This becomes your ruler, check to see if you are on course.
Always write out your goals.
Writing your goals out is another way to check if you have strayed from the course. It gives you something to follow. Write your goals out and read them daily. We have billions of thoughts per day and a goal is just another thought. Writing it down helps to keep that thought in mind instead of it being replaced by one of the other billions of thoughts. It also helps with your commitment to your goal. Seeing it daily reaffirms it in your mind.
Get a success partner.
One way to insure success with obtaining any goal is to have a partner. Someone who will encourage you and help you stay on course. It’s important to have someone who will stand by you and not someone who will try to discourage you. Champions Evolution is a coaching service that helps people set goals and achieve them. They deal with confidence and self-esteem issues and they show you how to believe you can have what you want.
Evaluate your progress.
Are you making headway? If not, why not? Adjust your plan to meet your long-term goal. Are you meeting your weekly or monthly weight loss goals? If not, determine what might be the problem. Add another half hour of walking each week or cut out second helpings.
Challenge yourself through adversity.
That means work hard, push yourself and feel a little discomfort if it means helping you reach your goals. Understand and acknowledge that change is not easy. If it were, you would have already achieved your goal. We tend to revert to previous behaviors when change gets difficult. Now is the time to develop new life behaviors.
You have a choice in what you get or don’t get. You choose to have success or you choose to have failure. There is nothing in between the two except you. What you choose to think about will be what you get. Focus on failure and no amount of effort will bring you the success you desire. The thing to do is focus your mind on success.
You eventually reach a point in your life when you’re ready for change and a whole bunch of information that’ll help you unleash your personal development potential. Until then, something can stare at you right under your nose but you don’t see it.
For instance, when you look at a painting, you can’t really appreciate it when it’s just an inch away from your face. But if you look at it from a little further back, you’ll have a clearer vision of the whole artwork.
Most people tend to only think of seeking advice for self help and personal growth when everything gets worse. For example, take the following scenario:
Try placing your finger in a pot of scalding hot water. What happens? You take it out pretty quick. Why? Because you can’t tolerate sudden change in your environment, the water’s hot temperature.
But try placing your finger in luck warm water and then turn the gas stove on. Wait until the water reaches a certain temperature, then you’ll start thinking “Ooh… it’s a bit warm in there”. Then you’ll finally remove your finger.
Generally speaking, people usually behave more like the second example above. We learn our lessons when we experience actual pain. Today, Shannon thinks Clark hates her. The next day, Chris walks up to her and tells her he hates her. Shannon stays the same and doesn’t mind what her friends say. On the third day, she learns that Kimberly and Nathan also can’t stand her. Shannon doesn’t realize at once the importance and the need for self improvement until the entire community hates her.
We finally see the warning signs and signals when things get rough and tough. When do we realize that we need to go on a diet? When our jeans and shirts don’t fit us anymore.
When do we stop eating or reduce the amounts of sweets we eat? When all of our teeth start to rot and visits to the dentist become more frequent.
When do we realize that we need to stop smoking? When our lungs have gone bad and our voice starts croaking.
When do we pray and ask for help? When we realize that we’re just might die tomorrow.
Most of us only learn about unleashing our personal development potential when the whole world is crashing down around us. Our situations prove uneasy to change, but those situations become more painful when we continue refusing to change them.
Change will happen, like it or not. At one point or another, you’re going to experience different turning points in your life. And you’re going to eventually unleash your potential for personal development — not because the world says so, not because your friends nag you, but because you realize it’s for your own good.
Happy people don’t just accept change, they embrace it. Now, you don’t have to feel tremendous heat before realizing the need for self improvement. Unleashing your potential means freeing yourself from the cage of thought that “it’s just the way I am.” Such a poor excuse for people only feeds fear and resistance to change.
Most of us program our minds like computers. For instance, Jessica repeatedly tells everyone that she’s afraid to be around groups of people. She hears her mom, her dad, her sister, her teacher say the same thing about her to other people. And over the years, that’s what Jessica comes to believe. She believes it truly is her story.
And what happens? Every time a great crowd gathers at her house, in school, and in the community, she tends to step back, shy away and lock herself up in a room. Jessica doesn’t just believe her story, she actually lives it.
Personal development may not be everybody’s cup of tea. But if you look at things from a different point of view, you might have greater chances of enjoying the whole process instead of sitting back and counting the days until you’re fully improved (and those days will never come anyway).
Three sessions a week at the gym results in a healthier life. Going out with friends and peers helps you take a step back from work and unwind. And just when you’re enjoying the whole process of unleashing your personal development potential, you realize you’re beginning to take things easier and become happier..
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